Deciding to live together is a big step in any relationship. It's an exciting time filled with fun, laughter, and love.
However, it's easy to get overwhelmed. Here at Next Apartment we have some essential tips to help keep everyone happy.
When you go from living alone or with a roommate to living with a partner, it's a big adjustment. Both of you need time and space to get used to it. Living together doesn't mean being together 24/7, so give your partner space and take some for yourself. Quality alone time via separate social outings, quiet reading, or just heading out for a walk, will strengthen your relationship and make the adjustment easier for both of you.
Whether you decide to stay in one of your apartments or find a new one together, keep in mind that any relationship requires give and take from both parties. Combine your belongings and decide together what you should each keep. Unpack together and reward yourselves when you're done with a dinner out.
If you choose to remain in one of your apartments, redecorate and rearrange the furniture to transform the space for a fresh start. Don't forget to inform your landlord that you'll have a new permanent resident. Make sure to add your partner's name to the lease and ask for additional keys or security codes.
Communication is key to any relationship. Talk to each other and split up the chores and bills in a manner that works for both of you. Compromise with each other and don't sweat the small stuff. Just because your partner does a chore differently than you, doesn't mean it's wrong. Exercise compassion and patience with each other.
Remember to have fun, living together shouldn't feel like work and chores shouldn't rule your down time. Plan date nights to get out of the apartment together or order dinner and enjoy a movie night. Friends and family should feel welcome, but you should discuss a few guidelines for drop in visitors and planned guests.